Ask A Sassy Black Woman

Hello Ms. Blackenstein,
I have been reading your column for a while now, and finally think I have a worthy question for you to ponder. First, a little background....I've been in the program for a few years now, but I've never really gotten a handle on the whole god thing. I'm grateful for recovery and all, and I like being in AA, but I'm just not a believer. The other night, the new sponsor I've been working with said I'm doomed to drink unless I "get a god" (his words). I replied by asking exactly how one gets a god, and said that if it was just a matter of making it up then what good is that? He started getting a little angry and said that all I had to do is sincerely ask god for his help and he would be there for me. I told him that sounded a little simplistic to me, and that I was sure people in the Holocaust sincerely asked for his help but that it didn't seem to do much good in that case. I went on to explain that I seemed to be doing okay so far -- that I haven't had any overwhelming urges to drink in years and that I was generally okay with both the good and bad things that life has handed me. I guess I really upset him with my insistent questioning, because after a while he grabbed me by the shirt and told me to get out of his "fucking" house. I hate being grabbed, so before too long we were in a full-blown fist fight (it was a draw, by the way). I really regret what has happened, because, despite our differences of opinion on issues of spirituality, I really like my new sponsor as a person and am hoping we can patch things up and remain friends, if not sponsor - sponsee. So, my question to you is, what exactly is the difference between a sassy black chick and a regular black chick?
Sincerely,
Secular Sam,
Garden Grove, CA



Dear Honey Child,

The only real difference is soul .

Grits -n-Suga baby

~sassy


P.S. Your God is for you to interpret, but I suggest you find one you can get down with, or you're liable to drink. It's not that God keeps you from drinking, He just keeps you humble. It helps knowing that you don't run the show, nor do you have to try.

P.P.S The people in the holocaust just didn't pray hard enough.